Lilette Dubey's `Kanyadaan' just reflected our servility to being politically correct and cultured, that we don't express the unreasonable in us, that which detracts from the perception we have of ourselves. And get threatened by what challenges that morality or the way of life we know.
Especially for a country like ours, thats so diverse and segregated still, one understands why marrying into different communities can be such a cause for concern.
Its the basic fear of living. On another plane, a fear of making unconventional choices, a fear of confronting the contrary, fear of gettingto know the Frankenstien within, to give it the air to breathe.
Thats one way of `survival' we choose. That is also why as kids we din't care a damn if running into that wall would break a nose, it was important to run like mad, scream like crazy, smile like a moron, coz mad,crazy and moron hadn't entered our vocabularies. The way back then, seems to me, is the only way forward.